15. No Untruths about Others

Revisiting the Ten Commandments: 15. Command Nine: No Untruths about Others

Ex 20:16   You shall not give false testimony against your neighbour.

Historical Example: When God created Adam and Eve, peace reigned. There was no reason for a cross word. Even immediately after the Fall both Adam and Eve spoke the truth and yet within it was blame and blame puts the onus on another person: “The man said, “The woman you put here with me–she gave me some fruit from the tree, and I ate it.” ….. The woman said, “The serpent deceived me, and I ate.” (Gen 3:12,13) Once we have sinned it opens the door for other sins. Because we ARE sinners, sinning came naturally (until we met Christ and he put his Holy Spirit within us). All sins are against God and many sins are against other people.

The Command:You shall not give false testimony against your neighbour.” In this context our ‘neighbour’ is anyone in close contact with us. As we saw above we can speak the truth about our ‘neighbour’ but it is still unkind and even wrong. The reality, the above example shows us, is that we can speak truth  but it is a half-truth. So OK Adam she offered you the fruit but you knew it was wrong, so why did you give way? OK Eve, this Satan made some wrong suggestions to you but you knew they were wrong, so why did you give way to the pleasure of the moment?

Practice: To constantly point out the failings of someone near us may be pointing out the truth, but it is still unkind and ungracious. We often speak against others because they are different from us; their lifestyle or their values may be different from ours. Unless we can do something about the difference, do something to bridge the gap. Speaking out our differences may make us feel good but does little good otherwise, and may subtly, even in our own thinking make it more difficult for us to communicate with them. But so far we haven’t told lies about them, but I mention these things to show how complex relationship can so often be.

Origins/Causes/Expressions: The lies, or the lack of truth, or distorting the truth, can come from two very similar origins and they both flow out of ‘self’. In the first one we can simply be an unpleasant person who, for whatever reason, just is unpleasant. May this never be able to be said about a Christian. This is a person still living the old life as the apostle Paul speaks about it, a life with no knowledge of Christ. Such people can have so many issues in their lives that it isn’t worth categorizing them; they simply need to come to Christ and be made anew.

Jesus said, “For out of the heart come evil thoughts, murder, adultery, sexual immorality, theft, false testimony, slander.” (Mt 15:19) Such people care little for the truth; they may say things out of sheer vindictiveness, sheer unpleasantness. It is how some people are. Inside they are all twisted up and so their words reflect what is going on inside. They desperately need to have an encounter with Christ. As I say, these cannot be Christians or, if they are, they may have asked Christ into their life but never let him have his way in bringing grace and change to them. To them the law still comes – don’t say wrong things about those around you!

But then there is, second, the far more common case, I believe, where somehow or other we come under attack from others and we retaliate – we speak back. The only thing about speaking back when you are hurt, is that your words cease to be careful and can so easily stray into the territories of exaggeration or even complete untruth. I know I let myself down when I put the word ‘always’ into a description, or perhaps, ‘never’. Speaking about the young preacher: “he is always straying away from the truth in his theology and isn’t worth listening to when he is preaching.” Perhaps he did once. Always is an exaggeration and is untrue and it is a false testimony about him. Or there is, “She never thinks before opening her mouth and so you’d do better never to listen to her.” Well sometimes she has a tendency to do that but often, no. That was a false testimony.

A Modern Expressions: People who pass on information about others (it is called gossip!) are the most prone to passing on inaccurate information and any distortion is false testimony. You’ve no doubt heard of ‘Chinese whispers’ where a message is passed from person to person and by the time it has reached the tenth person is utterly different from how it started. A silly example perhaps but nevertheless it is an illustration of how false testimony comes about. That is how it used to be but a new form of this has come about in the form of social media, passing on, joining in, speculating, exaggerating and thus producing so often what is now abundantly clear as “false testimony”. If you are a Christian and you use social media today, please, please, be careful what you pass on, what you say. How good it feels to be part of the conversation, in the know, even a contributor to a new line of thinking about someone else. And yet it has become patently obvious by so many examples picked up by the main-stream media that “giving false testimony” has occurred again and again and again in modern life. It should not happen and it should certainly not be Christians doing it. It is wrong and it offends God!

It also comes about so often through speculation. I wonder why they did that? Speculation, suggestions and soon the suggestion, the speculation, become ‘facts’. Well, no, that actually wasn’t what happened so that was false testimony. False testimony always demeans the reputation of someone, pulling them down in the eyes of the watchers and subsequently their behaviour towards that person subtly changes, and not for the better. Love they say is the mortar that holds the building blocks of relationships. False testimony is the acid that corrodes the love and causes separation.

Recounting what went on or what you heard is always difficult. Only yesterday I was listening to a CD in my car, and recounted to my wife a little later, a story being told. I had no desire to give false testimony and the effect of inaccuracy in this case was completely harmless, but when we put the CD on to listen to it together I realised I recounted the story with two inaccuracies. It is so easy to do, and when it is passing on details of what someone at a church meeting says, or even recounting a conversation, it is so easy to inadvertently be inaccurate. False testimony.

Speaking the truth is the call to all Christians and that is the up to date version, if you like, of this commandment, but it is also a call to speak the truth in love (Eph 4:15) which means sometimes we would do better to remain silent and sometimes really check our motivation. This command seems simple but it can have serious effects.

Viewing People: These considerations raise a further thought about how we think. How we think determines how we act and speak and so it really impinges in a major way on this subject. Here is a simple question: do you think the worst, assume the worst, and therefore speak the worst about other people? When someone says something do you interpret what they’ve said through the filter of your own insecurity or your own lack of sanctification?

I used to write on a church community page of Facebook, contributing a regular mini bible reflection. One day I suddenly found there was outright hostile reaction that was not saying nice things about my character, yes from Christians. I had written this ‘bible reflection’ in very general terms but these people viewed it as a personal attack on them (although they had never even been in my mind when I wrote) because it was an area in which they felt vulnerable. But the sad heart of this sort of thing is that we can think badly about other people and assume negative things about them, when no such things were in fact true. Thus our comments about them so easily become ‘false testimony’.

The use of e-mails is a particularly vulnerable means of communication today in that it is impossible to hear the tone of voice or see the face of the one writing and, unfortunately, so often we are left to interpret how they are speaking. It is at this point that ‘thinking best’ about people really needs to come into its own. If we are to truly love one another, as Jesus commands us to do, then we will give people the benefit of the doubt and think well of them rather than badly of them, when it is unclear.

To Summarize: First of all things to beware:

  • blaming others while we also share blame,
  • speaking half-truths,
  • gossiping,
  • joining in social media chat about a person and what you think of them,
  • jumping to conclusions about others, about what they say or do,
  • speaking negatively about anyone else that is opinion and not fact,

therefore always checking the truth of a situation and if it unclear, stay silent.

Second, the realities:

  • false testimony is speaking that which is wrong,
  • false testimony is sin,
  • false testimony will draw God’s attention and discipline to us.

Because of the incredible increase in communication by the use of modern technology, opportunities for false testimony have increased a hundredfold and therefore creates a minefield into which the unwary Christian can find themselves drawn. Let’s be careful!

Application: May I suggest we pray something incredibly simple: “Lord, please guard my mouth and convict me whenever I stray from the truth or speak without love. Amen.”

11. No Telling Lies

Meditating on the Wonders of the Ten Commandments:  11. No Telling Lies

Ex 20:16   You shall not give false testimony against your neighbour.

When God created  Adam and Eve, peace reigned. There was no reason for a cross word. Even immediately after the Fall both Adam and Eve spoke the truth and yet within it was blame and blame puts the onus on another person: The man said, “The woman you put here with me–she gave me some fruit from the tree, and I ate it.” …..  The woman said, “The serpent deceived me, and I ate.” (Gen 3:12,13) Once we have sinned it opens the door for other sins. Because we ARE sinners, sinning came naturally (until we met Christ and he put his Holy Spirit within us). All sins are against God and many sins are against other people.

In this context our ‘neighbour’ is anyone in close contact with us. As we saw above we can speak the truth about our neighbour but it is still unkind. To constantly point out the failings of someone near us may be pointing out the truth, but it is still unkind and ungracious. We often speak against others because they are different from us; their lifestyle or their values may be different from ours. Unless we can do something about the difference, do something to bridge the gap, then speaking out our differences may make us feel good but does little good otherwise, and may subtly, even  in our own thinking make it more difficult for us to communicate with them. But so far we haven’t told lies about them, but I mention these things to show how complex relationships can so often be.

The lies, or the lack of truth or distorting the truth can come from two very similar origins and they both flow out of ‘self’. In the first one we can simply be an unpleasant person who, for whatever reason, just is unpleasant. May this never be able to be said about a Christian. This is a person still living the old life as the apostle Paul speaks about it, a life with no knowledge of Christ. Such people can have so many issues in their lives that it isn’t worth categorizing them; they simply need to come to Christ and be made anew.

Jesus said, “For out of the heart come evil thoughts, murder, adultery, sexual immorality, theft, false testimony, slander.” (Mt 15:19) Such people care little for the truth; they may say things out of sheer vindictiveness, sheer unpleasantness. It is how some people are. Inside they are all twisted up and so their words reflect what is going on inside. They desperately need to have an encounter with Christ. As I say, these cannot be Christians, or if they are they may have asked Christ into their life but never let him have his way in bringing grace and change to them. To them the law still comes – don’t say wrong things about those around you!

But then there is the far more common case, I believe, where somehow or other we come under attack from others and we retaliate – we speak back. The only thing about speaking back when you are hurt, is that your words cease to be careful and can so easily stray into the territories of exaggeration or ever complete untruth. I know let myself down when I put the word ‘always’ into a description, or perhaps, ‘never’. Speaking about the young preacher: “he is always straying away from the truth in his theology and isn’t worth listening to when he is preaching.” Perhaps he did once. Always is an exaggeration and is untrue and it is a false testimony about him. Or there is, “She never thinks before opening her mouth and so you’d do better never to listen to her.” Well sometimes she has a tendency to do that but often, no. That was a false testimony.

People who pass on information about others (it is called gossip!) are the most prone the passing on inaccurate information and any distortion is false testimony. You’ve no doubt heard of ‘Chinese whispers’ where a message is passed from person to person and by the time it has reached the tenth person is utterly different from how it started. A silly example perhaps but nevertheless it is an illustration of how false testimony comes about.

It also comes about so often through speculation. I wonder why they did that? Speculation, suggestions and soon the suggestion, the speculation, become ‘facts’. Well, no, that actually wasn’t what happened so that was false testimony. False testimony always demeans the reputation of someone, pulling them down in the eyes of the watchers and subsequently their behaviour towards that person subtly changes, and not for the better.  Love they say is the mortar that holds the building blocks of relationships. False testimony is the acid that corrodes the love and causes separation.

Recounting what went on or what you heard is always difficult. Only yesterday I was listening to a CD in my car, and recounted to my wife a little later, a story being told. I had no desire to give false testimony and the effect of inaccuracy in this case was completely harmless, but when we put the CD on to listen to it together I realised I recounted the story with two inaccuracies. It is so easy to do, and when it is passing on details of what someone at a church meeting says, or even recounting a conversation, it is so easy to inadvertently be inaccurate. False testimony.

Speaking the truth is the call to all Christians and that is the up to date version, if you like, of this commandment, but it is also a call to speak the truth in love (Eph 4:15) which means sometimes we would do better to remain silent and sometimes really check our motivation,. This command seems simple but it can have serious effects.

11. Truth

Lessons from the Law: No.11 : Respect the Truth

Ex 20:16 You shall not give false testimony against your neighbor.

We have said that all these commandments are linked to relationships. The first four are relationship with the Lord, the fifth is about relationship with parents, the sixth is about relating rightly to all other humans and respecting their life, the seventh was about marriage relationships and the eighth about relationships with all other people, and respecting their property ownership. Each command stops abuse of that relationship in some specific way. Life is all about relating to God and to other people. None of us is an island and so life is all about how we relate to everyone else we encounter in life, starting with God.

The ninth commandment gives us another abuse against others: speaking wrongly about what they have said and done. This is more than just speaking badly about others, although that is also wrong, this is seeking to pervert justice, because false testimony is telling untruths about them that lead to injustice. Each of the previous commandments we have just considered are to ensure there is peace and harmony in the community of God’s people. Murder takes life, adultery takes a person’s heart, stealing takes a possession, and now false testimony takes a reputation, and each one causes harm and upset in the lives of individuals and in the community. It isn’t only the individuals that are upset, although that is bad enough, but the whole of the community is adversely affected when these things take place. Guilt, shame and especially mistrust break in to the lives of the people in the world around you when you break these commands.

We find similar instructions given later in the law: Do not spread false reports.” (Ex 23:1) and “Have nothing to do with a false charge and do not put an innocent or honest person to death, for I will not acquit the guilty.” (Ex 23:7) False speaking was to have no place among the community of God’s people. Why? Because as Solomon was later to write, “There are six things the LORD hates…. a false witness who pours out lies and a man who stirs up dissension among brothers.” (Prov 6:16,19) The Lord is concerned with truth and reality and lies and deception are only of His enemy and so He hates these things that disturb and upset His world. Indeed, Solomon later wrote, “The righteous hate what is false,” (Prov 13:5) and so a righteous person, reflecting their Lord’s heart, will have nothing to do with speaking falsely.

It was quite a key issue with Solomon and crops up in Proverbs again and again in different forms: “A truthful witness does not deceive, but a false witness pours out lies.” (Prov 14:5) and “A truthful witness saves lives, but a false witness is deceitful.” (Prov 14:25). So strongly does he feel about it that he gives severe warnings: “A false witness will not go unpunished, and he who pours out lies will not go free.” (Prov 19:5) repeating it slightly differently a few verses later: “A false witness will not go unpunished,and he who pours out lies will perish.” (Prov 19:9) But it is also the person who listens to these lies and accepts them who is drawn into this: “A false witness will perish, and whoever listens to him will be destroyed forever.” (Prov 21:28). Speaking even more graphically, he later says, “Like a club or a sword or a sharp arrow is the man who gives false testimony against his neighbor.” (Prov 25:18)

Yes, the message is quite clear from Scripture: the Lord is against lies, and especially lies about those who are around you, whoever they may be. And ‘neighbour’ can mean those who live near you or those who work around you or learn around you at school or college. ‘Speaking falsely’ is saying anything about another which is not the truth about them. It may simply be an opinion or it may be secondhand, but if it is not true, we are still ‘giving false testimony’; we are saying things about them which are not true and we are conveying to others false information or false impressions. We are leading others to think badly about the ones we are speaking about and in so doing we diminish their reputation. To use a word we used a lot in the previous meditation, we ‘demean’ them; we make them less than they are.

I suspect that this commandment is broken far more regularly than we are mostly aware. Reports mount up that press reporting and TV news reporting are sometimes careless in checking the details before publishing them, and thus false reports or ‘slightly inaccurate’ reports are given. How many reputations have been destroyed because a reporter and their editor were a little bit flexible with the truth? The media representatives may find they have a lot to answer for when they face the Lord eventually.

But it isn’t only the media; it is each one of us. How careful are we about speaking the truth? Gossip tends to inaccurately convey the truth. Yes the truth may include an error or mistake or piece of bad behaviour, but if it comes without compassionate understanding, it is not the complete truth and the gossip will be answerable to the Lord for breaking this commandment which, we have noted above, is highly regarded by the Lord.

No, don’t think that this is a minor commandment, one less than murder. You may not be physically killing a person but you may kill their reputation and, indeed, their future. We must be very careful to stick to the truth, the whole truth and nothing but the truth, otherwise we may find ourselves being held accountable by the Lord, and that will not be pleasant!